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We’ve all had moments when time seems to slip away, when we’re so lost in what we’re doing that nothing else matters—no intrusive thoughts, no endless to-do lists, just this incredible focus. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls this state flow, arguing that these moments are the key to living a deeply satisfying life. Honestly, just think about getting into this kind of focus more often - you probably need half the time to move the needle forward in your projects (even in your workouts, stop talking so much and focus on the weights 😂).
But how do we create this state on purpose? Or better yet—why should we? Here are some key takeaways from Flow that break down what it is, why it matters, and how you can create it more often.
1. Flow Isn’t Just for Artists and Athletes. It’s for Everyone.
Flow might sound elusive, like something only athletes or musicians get into when they’re “in the zone.” But flow is available to everyone, whether you're writing, coding, cooking, or building something.
2. Flow Thrives on Challenge (But Not Too Much)
Csikszentmihalyi found that flow happens when you’re balancing between anxiety and boredom. You need a task that challenges you—but only enough to keep you fully engaged without causing stress. If it’s too easy, you’re bored; if it’s too hard, you’re frustrated. Aim for that sweet spot where you're on your toes but not out of your depth.
3. Purpose + Clarity = Path to Flow
To reach flow, you need two things: clear goals and immediate feedback. It’s like playing a game where each level has a clear win condition, and you know right away if you’re hitting the mark. Whether it’s completing a project or mastering a new skill, clarity and purpose help you lose yourself in the task.
4. Flow Beats the Pursuit of Happiness
Here’s a counterintuitive point: happiness isn’t something you can chase; it’s what happens when you’re fully immersed in an activity. Csikszentmihalyi argues that “true happiness” isn’t about achieving goals or possessions but lies in those moments when you’re so focused on what you’re doing that you lose all self-consciousness.
5. Flow Builds Resilience and Fulfillment
Regularly experiencing flow can change how you face challenges and live your life. People who make flow a habit tend to develop stronger resilience because they’re constantly working at the edge of their comfort zone. They’re also generally more fulfilled because their lives aren’t just about achieving goals—they’re about enjoying the process along the way.
How to Get Into Flow: A Quick Guide
Start with Clear Goals: Set a goal that’s specific and challenging enough to require your full attention.
Focus Deeply: Set aside distractions and dedicate time. Flow demands focus; it doesn’t like to be interrupted. (set up - a NoExcuses mode on your phone so nobody can disturb you)
Balance Challenge and Skill: Pick a task that matches your skill but pushes you just enough to grow.
Lose Yourself in the Task: Let go of self-consciousness and let the work take over. (Lose yourself by Eminem is a track I listen to before getting into the flow if motivation is low)
Wrapping It Up
Flow teaches us that the most fulfilling life isn’t necessarily the easiest—it’s the one where we’re actively engaged, stretched, and deeply connected to what we’re doing. If you find ways to create flow every day, even in the smallest moments, you’re likely to feel more satisfied and resilient. It’s not about finding happiness; it’s about finding fulfillment through meaningful challenge.
Sources:
"Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience" by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi
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